Through The Glass Recovery Podcast

E65: Discover Your Identity After Addiction

Discovering your identity after addiction is an adventure all in itself. One of the most common things we hear people say in coversations about recovery is, "I quite drinking and I didn't even know who I was!" Join us as we have a great conversation with sober comedian Trevor Keveloh, talk show host Marci Hopkins, and sober influencer Matt Shambo about how we've found our authentic selves now that we're sober.
"I had this persona that I created. I was too scared to uncover who I really was."
Some of the concepts you'll hear about in this episode include:
Discovering what you really enjoy
Letting down walls to allow for connection
"Masking" and how it hinders authenticity
Not allowing others to define you
Exploring hobbies and finding your unique style
Finding your purpose
The difference between sobriety and recovery
Releasing insecurity to thrive as your true self
"Being a person of value is more important than being a person of success."
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E64: Turn Self-Loathing into Self-Love

The messages we receive from the people in our lives - going all the way back to childhood - shape the way we see ourselves, and unfortunately for a lot of us, that means we find ourselves often facing the challenge of self loathing. We tell ourselves we're not good enough, we're not worthy, we'll never succeed, and that we're failures. Listen as we chat with Greg (Mindbody Matters podcast host), and Instagram influencers Keith and Hali about what self loathing has looked like in our lives, and more importantly, how we've worked through it and learned to undo the messaging and start loving ourselves. 
"We get to rewrite the messages we've received. We get to decide what to believe."
In this episode, we'll share our thoughts on the following:
How the message we receive from others shapes the way we see ourselves
Turning to faith to create a sense of self love
The effect that our childhood has on our inner voice
Learning to recognize these messages so we can start to undo them
Defining our own standards to live up to, instead of allowing others to define them for us
The importance of keeping promises to ourselves
Finding fulfillment in purpose
Positive affirmations - how to use them, and how they work
Allowing others in, so that they can lift us up when we're struggling
Self loathing as the foundation of depression
Rewriting our beliefs about ourselves
Not feeling worthy of love, grace, and compassion
Learning to accept compliments
The fear of pridefulness holding us in a place of self loathing for the sake of humility
" 'I'm not good enough' fueled the self loathing."
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E63: Sober Holidays - How To Really Enjoy Them

With the holidays just around the corner, we invited our guests to come share their experiences about how they have found enjoyment in sober holidays. Join us as we chat with Rachel, host of Recovery Daily podcast, and Tiktok sober influencers Stephen and Katherine about what holidays look like for them now that they aren't drinking. We share some tips, as well as some honest struggles and experiences.
"For some it's partying, for others it's suffering, but the holidays can be hard for everyone."
Some of the things you'll hear in this episode include:
Making good choices about who we spend time with
It gets easier with time
Giving yourself permission to grieve past memories
Playing the tape forward as a tool to get through tough times
Stay present, be prepared for what's coming, and know you'll be okay.
Fomo (fear of missing out)
Protect yourself in whatever way you need to
Creating new traditions
Receiving alcohol as a gift
Check your motives - why are you going? Is it for a positive, healthy reason?
Give yourself permission to not go, or to leave early.
"I'm really fond of my peace. I'll take my peace on Christmas or New Year's over whatever 'fun' I was trying to create when I was drinking."
Want more help and support to get you through your holiday season? Check out our Season 1 episode on Sober Holidays here.

E62: The Benefits of a Sober Life

The question, "How has getting sober affected your life?" brought about an incredible conversation about the benefits of a sober life. Join us as we chat with a few of our good friends (and Through the Glass regulars) - John, Antje, and Derrick - about how our lives have changed in recovery. The benefits are incredible - from the small changes and little wins, to life changing growth.
"We fail, we get up, we learn from that failure. That's what recovery is."
Some of the benefits of a sober life that you'll hear us talk about include:
Learning emotional regulation, so our emotions don't run away this us anymore
Healthy coping skills for stress management
We're forced to learn new habits and new mindsets, and it's a gift
Stopping to look back and appreciate the wins
Letting go of self loathing and learning to love yourself
Recovery is about a lot more than just not drinking
Deeper, more meaningful relationships
Finally being able to tell the truth, and being free from a life of lies
Finding new, different friends that support our new lifestyle
Learning to own mistakes and learn from failure
Getting good at being bad at things; being okay with being a beginner
How "One Day At A Time" applies to more than just not drinking
Finally learning to be present in our lives
Truly experiencing joy and gratitude
Growing in courage and in confidence
Gaining clarity about why we are the way we are
Finding the strength to get through the hard times, from grief to depression, without drinking
"Whatever I'm going through, I know I'm not going out of my way to make it worse now."
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E61: Navigating Changing Family Relationships in Recovery

What happens to family relationships in recovery? It's no secret that addiction affects entire families, but we thought it would be good to also talk about navigating family relationships after you've stopped drinking. Spoiler alert: it's not all sunshine and rainbows. Of course there are positives, like more meaningful connections and rebuilding trust. But there are struggles, too. In this sober podcast episode, we're joined by DeAnn from Show Up And Stay, Ali from The Sober Witch, and our friend Kernie, to talk about what relationships look like, now that we're sober and working on healing ourselves.
"First I had to heal myself, before I could heal my relationships."
In this episode:
We all thought we were hiding our drinking from our families
We pushed everyone away to "protect" them from us.
Discovering the very real need for connection
Creating new beliefs around intimacy
Developing the maturity to have healthy relationships
Other people aren't ready to change just because you are, and that's hard to accept sometimes.
Finding connection in recovery communities is an important part of recovery
Our growth is going to make our families uncomfortable
We discover new identities, and have to introduce our families to the new "us"
Where you are at now - in your relationships and in life - is not where you'll always be.
"It's really hard to do the thing that is best for you, and disappoint the people that you care about."

E60: Spooky Scary Sober Stuff

It's Halloween season and we're here to talk about all the spooky, scary sober stuff - the things that scared us about getting sober, and how we get past our fears.
We cover everything from fear of relapse to fear of rejection, fear of shame and fear of sober vacations. We talk about how we've learned to face the fears and move through them, so fear doesn't have as much power to hold us back.
Listen as we chat with Rachael from Addict With Purpose and Through the Glass regular Corina about all the spooky sober stuff in this slightly silly, honest conversation about fear.
"I'm done being afraid of being afraid."
In this episode:
The fear of relapse is a healthy fear
Fear of admitting we had a problem
The fear of living life without alcohol
Fear of failure and success
Fear of grief
Fear of rejection, judgment, and shame
Fear of loneliness
Fear of vacationing sober
Anxiety and excitement produce the same physiological reaction
Learning to "make friends" with fear and use it as motivation
"Attitude is the difference between an ordeal and an adventure."
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E59: Change in Recovery -An Opportunity for Growth

Dealing with change in recovery can bring about all kinds of challenges and emotions. From excitement and anticipation, to anxiety and fear of the unknown, navigating change can be overwhelming. Listen as we are joined by our friends Sherralyn, Dan, and Kate, and we discuss the changes we've experienced since getting sober. We talk about the changes within ourselves, and also navigating changes that life has thrown at us. And most importantly, we share what we've learned about moving through change without drinking.
"You can view change as a challenge, or as an opportunity."
In this episode:
The most significant change is the one inside ourselves.
We can choose to be excited by the changes happening in us, instead of afraid.
Learning to view the unknown with wonder and curiosity instead of fear
The people in our lives change as we move through our recovery journeys
Coping with change includes releasing the need for control.
Choosing to use change as a change to grow instead of running from it.
Learning how to embrace the emotions that come with change.
Dealing with external changes out of our control in a healthy way.
Learning to lean on your support system.
The longer we are in recovery, the more confidence we gain in our ability to cope with difficult situations.
Our relationships will also change, as we change.
"Because we change inside, things around us change, too."
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E58: Why Boundaries Are Important In Recovery

You hear the word "boundaries" get thrown around a lot in recovery circles, but what does it actually mean? And more importantly - why do you need to understand it? We're going to dig into boundaries today, and our guests will share some examples of boundaries they've had to set in their own lives, as well as why it's been important for their recovery journeys. Meet Richard, who works with youth and their families; Nicole, a sober influencer we met on Instagram; and Sean, author of Going Dry; and listen as we chat about everything we've learned about how boundaries affect our lives and relationships now that we're sober.
"When you start setting boundaries, you get closer to peace."
In this episode:
You are the only one in control of your boundaries
Defining and setting our boundaries for ourselves first
Having a willingness to be honest with yourself
Taking ownership of what you can control and are responsible for
Growing up without boundaries sets the stage for our adult lives
How to communicate boundaries
Setting boundaries with people who don't understand them
Dealing with the pain of enforcing boundaries
Practicing with boundaries by starting small
Accepting boundaries with others with wisdom and grace
Sharing the skills we learn in recovery with others in our lives
"If someone works up the courage to set a boundary with you, they really care about you."
 
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E57: Fighting FOMO When You’re Sober

Feeling like you're being left out - or worrying about missing out - is soooo common when you're sober. Some things just aren't the same after you quit drinking, and it takes some time to get comfortable with that. And of course, sometimes we're worrying far too much about things that end up not being an issue at all anyway. Join us as we chat with Eliza, Sherralyn, and Alex about FOMO - what it means, and how we overcome it so we don't feel like we're missing out on anything at all.
"You're taking tomorrow's joy and using it right now."
In this episode:
It all gets easier with time
Jomo - the joy of missing out on the regret and embarrassment
Friends that matter will still invite you, and are still fun to be around
Risk vs. Benefit analysis to decide whether it's worth it
Honestly, nobody cares if you're drinking or not
Alcohol companies' effects on why we believe we need alcohol to have fun
Mommy wine culture
Modeling sober fun for our kids and ending the cycle
"What about worrying about missing out on the rest of your life?"

E56: Stop Negative Self Talk

Negative self talk is seriously dangerous when it comes to recovery. Whether it's how we talk to ourselves when we're first starting out, or the things we say later as we start rebuilding our lives, we have to learn to quiet the inner critic, and show ourselves kindness. The cycle of negativity will only hold us back from achieving our goals, no matter what they are. It's easier said than done though, to learn how to catch those thoughts and change them. Join us in this podcast episode as we talk with Marc, Dave, and Corinna about how we've learned to stop negative self talk and give ourselves the chance to thrive.
"The story I tell myself is the story I'm going to believe."
In this episode:
Changing "I can't" to "I can"
Negative people affect your self talk
The Stop Thought technique
Learning to look for solutions, not problems
Finding ways to see the positive
Gaining awareness so you can stop negative self talk
Pay attention to what you surround yourself with
You can't shame yourself into change
Negative self talk as a trauma response
Being authentic is the only way to create a positive self image
Discover your power of choice
The importance of self forgiveness
Choosing the right thoughts to reprogram with
"You can't shame yourself into changing. You must love yourself into changing."
For more about our guests, visit https://throughtheglassrecovery.com/podcast/stop-negative-self-talk-in-recovery/
 
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