E80: The People Pleaser's Guide to Sobriety

The stereotypical "alcoholic" is seen as selfish. Always focused on their own gain, getting their needs met, and using other people to make that happen. 

But... it's actually far more common for people struggling with alcohol misuse to be people pleasers. They bend over backward, taking care of everyone, keeping everyone happy, to the point where they find themselves exhausted, empty, and full of resentment. People pleasing can be a huge pitfall in maintaining lasting sobriety. Today we're joined by Robbie, co-host of Golden Hour Adventures podcast; Leah, sober yoga instructor; and Daph, recovery coach and sober companion, to chat about what people pleasing looks like in our lives, how it affects us, and how we've found the courage to say no more often.

"Sometimes I forget to check in with myself."

In this episode, you'll hear about:

• People pleasing as the desire to be liked and to fit in
• Understanding the pressure that people pleasing places on us in our daily lives
• Saying yes when we really mean no, and how that leads to resentment, which leads to drinking
• Boundaries and how to set them if you're a people pleaser
• People pleasing to avoid conflict
• Dealing with the guilt and resentment that we carry from decisions made from people pleasing
• Learning - and remembering - to check in with yourself
• Early sobriety requires a certain amount of being 'selfish'
• Working through the fear of disappointing others

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